canadianchibivampyre: booptease: ...

1st March 2012

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canadianchibivampyre:

booptease:

cougardraven:

demrebelgiro:

bethechangeyouwishfor:

stupidaudrey:

dyinglion:

Let me make something I believe very strongly very clear.
Just because there is someone in the world who has it worse does not mean you have no right to be unsatisfied with your situation. I understand the larger picture here, but this logic is equivalent to saying “You were molested? Well, I know people who were murdered, so you have nothing to complain about.” Yes, I realize that the comparison here isn’t so dramatic. But you get the idea, right? Just because somebody’s got it worse than you doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be sad or complain. There will always be someone who has it worse than you do. There are certainly people in worse situations than this soldier.
This sort of thing frustrates me, I guess because it’s a blatant display of using strife as a sort of pissing contest. “Yeah, well, my problems are bigger than yours, so shut up!” It’s ridiculous. I’ll say it one more time: Just because there’s somebody who’s got it worse doesn’t mean you don’t have it bad, too.
You can appreciate the struggles of, say, a soldier, without belittling and marginalizing the issues of everyone else.
I had a friend who was being severely verbally abused by her father. Her parents were convicts and their family had just been reunited. They were poor, and times were tough. I remember she would try to tell me that since it could be worse, she shouldn’t complain. It wasn’t as bad as it could be, so she had no right to be upset.
This is bullshit, pardon my language. So, one more time, say it with me: Just because there’s somebody who’s got it worse doesn’t mean you don’t have it bad, too. And you’re not more important than anybody else just because your issues are monumental. You’re not more worthy of love than someone battling depression or someone being abused and don’t you dare try to say that you are.
»>Everyone has problems, and they’re all important.«<
/rant
Note: Please do not think that this is an attempt to marginalize the gigantic sacrifices our soldiers make for our country. Regardless of your view on war, and the one we’re in, you have to appreciate the men and women who dedicate their lives to a cause they believe is keeping us safe. All I mean is that their heroism and the burdens that come along with that are not a reason to belittle anyone else for having problems.

preach.

amen.

Fuck that picture.

The bolded.

I’ve been saying this for years. People try to belittle or even deny another’s pain to validate their own. Pain is pain we all have a right to feel it and to be overwhelmed. As we all have the right to be happy.

^ Amen!

There is no substantive difference between one person’s emotions and another’s. Mark Twain once said: Nothing that grieves us can be called little: by the eternal laws of proportion a child’s loss of a doll and a king’s loss of a crown are events of the same size.
The only part that changes is how much we judge other people for having feelings. Stop doing that!
Edit: Besides, there’s no way to tell from a picture how much stress either is experiencing. People respond to different events in different ways- someone who handles combat easily(and they are trained how) may be terrified at the prospect of being a father. Someone may have horrible test anxiety but manages to focus on their studies while dealing with the death of a parent. You never know the whole story.

booptease:

cougardraven:

demrebelgiro:

bethechangeyouwishfor:

stupidaudrey:

dyinglion:

Let me make something I believe very strongly very clear.

Just because there is someone in the world who has it worse does not mean you have no right to be unsatisfied with your situation. I understand the larger picture here, but this logic is equivalent to saying “You were molested? Well, I know people who were murdered, so you have nothing to complain about.” Yes, I realize that the comparison here isn’t so dramatic. But you get the idea, right? Just because somebody’s got it worse than you doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be sad or complain. There will always be someone who has it worse than you do. There are certainly people in worse situations than this soldier.

This sort of thing frustrates me, I guess because it’s a blatant display of using strife as a sort of pissing contest. “Yeah, well, my problems are bigger than yours, so shut up!” It’s ridiculous. I’ll say it one more time: Just because there’s somebody who’s got it worse doesn’t mean you don’t have it bad, too.

You can appreciate the struggles of, say, a soldier, without belittling and marginalizing the issues of everyone else.

I had a friend who was being severely verbally abused by her father. Her parents were convicts and their family had just been reunited. They were poor, and times were tough. I remember she would try to tell me that since it could be worse, she shouldn’t complain. It wasn’t as bad as it could be, so she had no right to be upset.

This is bullshit, pardon my language. So, one more time, say it with me: Just because there’s somebody who’s got it worse doesn’t mean you don’t have it bad, too. And you’re not more important than anybody else just because your issues are monumental. You’re not more worthy of love than someone battling depression or someone being abused and don’t you dare try to say that you are.

»>Everyone has problems, and they’re all important.«<

/rant

Note: Please do not think that this is an attempt to marginalize the gigantic sacrifices our soldiers make for our country. Regardless of your view on war, and the one we’re in, you have to appreciate the men and women who dedicate their lives to a cause they believe is keeping us safe. All I mean is that their heroism and the burdens that come along with that are not a reason to belittle anyone else for having problems.

preach.

amen.

Fuck that picture.

The bolded.

I’ve been saying this for years. People try to belittle or even deny another’s pain to validate their own. Pain is pain we all have a right to feel it and to be overwhelmed. As we all have the right to be happy.

^ Amen!

There is no substantive difference between one person’s emotions and another’s. Mark Twain once said: Nothing that grieves us can be called little: by the eternal laws of proportion a child’s loss of a doll and a king’s loss of a crown are events of the same size.

The only part that changes is how much we judge other people for having feelings. Stop doing that!

Edit: Besides, there’s no way to tell from a picture how much stress either is experiencing. People respond to different events in different ways- someone who handles combat easily(and they are trained how) may be terrified at the prospect of being a father. Someone may have horrible test anxiety but manages to focus on their studies while dealing with the death of a parent. You never know the whole story.

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